Intimacy in the Christian marriage must be a subject I get asked most about from young mommas. There’s a good reason for that. It is such a vital aspect of marriage and yet, the “older women” who were to teach the younger women how to love their husbands, and children have really remained silent on the topic. This has caused many to seek council apart from those that know Truth. We need to try and help in this area. No matter how “old” we are, we are probably an “older” woman to someone.
Well, let’s see if I can help in some way to answer your questions.
There are so many personal factors that go into a subject like this. It’s normally best as a conversation one on one with each other. I will have to answer “generally” and pray that God uses this post to help you experience the beauty of intimacy that He created!
God is not silent on this subject. He cares deeply about His people experiencing the pleasure of intimacy between husband and wife.
We were created to glorify God and while it may seem odd to some or uncomfortable at first, we most definitely can glorify God in the marriage bed.
So, what does God have to say on this subject? How do we really glorify Him in this area of our lives?
God has plenty to say!
It all started in Genesis!
Genesis 1: 27-28 So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. And God blessed them and God said unto them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and replenish the earth and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
In Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him.
God established the union of marriage between a man and woman from the very beginning. It is God’s plan for one man and one woman to be joined in marriage establishing the start of a family unit in which children will be born and raised for His glory. However, that wasn’t his only purpose of creating this union! If you examine Scripture, you’ll see that often he lets us know of great sorrow and how others were comforted through this action of oneness. Other passages talk to us about the delight of intimacy, and others warn us of neglecting this area of our marriage.
1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
God created us to “know” each other through this intimate act of marriage on a regular basis. So then, how does it become something beautiful and Holy when the world seems to have made it simply an act of human instinct with no rules, no boundaries, and its only purpose is self-satisfaction?
To answer that simply, it will become a Holy experience when we direct our hearts to seek God even through the intimate moments between husband and wife. When we turn off the lights, and shut the door we need to make sure we’ve not tried to put God on the other side of that door. We must allow Him to be God and rule our hearts and thoughts even in this time of intimacy.
Boy, there’s a lot for us to talk about on this topic isn’t there?! I want to make sure I’m keeping it clear and building a good foundation that we can all develop our thoughts on, the Word of God. Make sure you send your specific questions in to me with our, Mom’s mailbox feature, and I will include them anonymously in this series.
So how are we to behave in this most intimate time of marriage? What is okay and what’s not is probably the question that is asked of me most. Next would be how to help husbands that struggle with pornography and it’s influence in the bedroom. Then would be the question of how to handle this time of marriage when we don’t “feel” like participating. Are these a few of the questions you’ve had? Do you have other questions? I would love to hear from you and answer as the Lord allows me!
I invite you to join my dear Sister in Christ, Darlene, on her new site Marriage Prayers to begin covering your marriage in prayer 365 days a year!
I will be posting Intimacy in the Christian Marriage Part 2 on Monday. I hope you’ll join me then!
With much love,
Mrs. Joseph Wood
For more in this series continuing reading here:
Part 2– How We Should Behave
Part 3– Overcoming Pornography
Part 4– When I don’t Feel Like Being Intimate
Part 5– Your Questions Answered